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  • Preya Rana

Admire and Compliment - Openly and Often

“Admire her beauty without questioning your own.”



I would’ve never thought of myself as someone who would not compliment someone just because they were insecure about themselves. (don't know if that makes grammatical sense, but ok..)


However, there’s always a moment in your life where some little thing makes you realize something about yourself that you never even considered.


For me, I always thought that I was a supportive friend to everyone and I really tried my best to be that way.

But, this is one of the times when I learned to be better.


I came across this quote or something like it, around the end of 9th grade and the reason I distinctly remember this is that I had amazing friends and the kind that would dress up for birthday parties (which was not the case with my previous group of friends).

When we would go to said parties, I remember many-a-times, thinking that someone looked really good, or had a great dress.

But, I found myself holding back and not actually complimenting them.


I know the picture is not very clear, but I loved the moments captured with these beautiful girlfriends of mine!

At the time, I just thought it was because of awkwardness or something that I didn't say anything. But, when I heard this quote, I remember immediately thinking about those girl friends of mine who always looked gorgeous themselves and always complimented the others openly as well.

I can only speak for myself, but I'm pretty sure everyone else feels this way as well...that it feels really good and warm to be complimented.


And when I read the quote, like I said, I immediately thought about their openness in complimenting and realized that maybe some part of me was insecure about complimenting others because maybe that meant that I wasn't that good.

Which, now that I write it down, sounds ridiculous.

But, I'll tell you something, after that, I gradually started complimenting people and shutting the inhibitory little voice in my head and being more open.

And, I would always take inspiration from them whenever I felt myself holding back from complimenting.

I don't think they know yet, but I really admire that quality in them and they taught me this - “Just because you compliment someone or admire their beauty or brains or whatever, doesnt mean you're any less beautiful or smart or whatever!”


“Admire her beauty without questioning your own.”

(I know i've written mostly about complimenting appearance-related things and that's just because that's what I had in my example, but it happens in complimenting someone’s intelligence, strength and so many other things as well and when we learn this skill, it gets extrapolated to all the areas)

So, what I'm trying to say is that it's easier to hold back on appreciation and that'll be your first instinct, but don't do that.

If, even a tiny part of you has this block, then know that it's fine, but remind yourself of this quote everytime a thought like that comes in.


Because, for real, the joy and smile on someone’s face when you genuinely compliment them, even if they are a stranger you saw on the train or someone at the mall; the fact that it made them happy and that you put that smile on their face makes you happy...it’s just a beautiful thing!


The joy and smile on someone’s face when you genuinely compliment them, even if they are a stranger you saw on the train or someone at the mall; the fact that it made them happy and that you put that smile on their face...it’s just a beautiful thing!


Anyway, that's just a little something that I stumbled across that brought this memory and these thoughts.

Hope you connected with it, hope made sense to you and that it'll inspire you to give genuine compliments openly and enjoy the connection that comes with this simple action.

Until next time,

Stay Happy! Stay Beautiful!

Love,

Preya <3